The GratitudeSite

If there’s one thing that most of have in common, especially women, it’s that we are too sensitive by nature. Along with this quality comes a tendency to internalize and impute meaning and motive to the behavior and actions of others. Here’s a thought: rather than going with your immediate reaction, consider that at least some of the time, the things that happen really have nothing to do with you, personally, at all. It just may be that you are trusting your erroneous thoughts and feelings that have warped your perception, rather than admitting to yourself that perhaps it’s not personal.

Taking things personally only causes you unnecessary frustration and misplaced worry. You’ve attached your self-worth to another’s apparent reaction and given them your power. Most of the time it’s about the other person, their history, beliefs and what is happening in their life right now. There are however some steps you can take to minimize this tendency:

•  - Take a moment, step back and look at the bigger picture. Does whatever another said or did really matter anyway? Do you even value their opinion?
•  - Break the habit of overreacting – you are just feeding the monster.
•  - Don’t make assumptions or judgments about another’s thoughts or actions.

 The next time you find yourself annoyed or hurt, just remember to say to yourself, “Maybe it’s not personal…”

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